Parents have power…with adult children!

Mama Holly, here. I am convinced that even with adult children, parents still have power. It is a different kind of power. It is a power that reminds parents of the influence and support they can provide in the lives of their offspring.

For example…is your adult child going through a difficult time in a relationship? Are there red flags indicating abuse? Verbal, emotional, financial or physical? As the parent, you can pour thoughts of encouragement into your child. You can be the voice that demonstrates how valuable and deserving they are of what God has to offer them. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us that God declares: ” For I know the plans I have for you; plans not to harm you, but to prosper you and to give you hope and a future.”(NRSV)

When children are hurting and suffering in an unhealthy relationship, parents have power as a resource, a voice of wisdom and hope saying that they are not alone. That you are there for them as they wrestle with decisions and possible life-changing choices. Think about the way you helped them when they were a child and fell off their bike. You were there to comfort them, dust them off and get them back on track again. Your encouragement and support enabled them to learn from it and try again. Those are life’s lessons.

While unhealthy relationships and other adult-sized issues require more detailed areas of resolution, parents still have power to be a continuous source of encouragement, wisdom, strength, and hope in the lives of their (adult) children.

From Messy to Message

via Daily Prompt: Messy

Previously when I thought about the word messy, I used to think it was a bad thing…like a messy room that my parents always wanted me to clean and organize. A messy room that would result in my not going out with friends because I had not cleaned up the pile of clothes on the floor. I had not made the bed and stacks of books (which I love) were all over the place.  Now when I think about messy, I consider the message that can come out of the mess. God created heaven and earth out of the mess that was chaos and void. Out of that messy atmosphere, God created the world that is around us. Shining stars, trees, creatures, large and small, the galaxy, waterfalls and sea shells came out of the messy environment. And with all of creation came a message. God loves us. God loves you and you and you! So when things get messy, consider the message that is found in the messiness. “Even when life is messy, you are loved.”  BTW, I did learn how to clean my messy room.

Parents have prayer power!

O, God, help me understand this child!

As a parent or grandparent have you ever prayed that prayer? I have…many times. As the mother of my five, I  know that they are in my care for a season. Our sacred seeds have been entrusted to us and we are stewards of their learning, growth and spiritual development.

There were times in the early, quiet hours of the morning when I  would tiptoe downstairs to the family room. There I would find my mahogany rocking chair waiting by the fireplace with comforting arms and a warm, cozy blanket to wrap around me. In that little space, I  would rock and pray. This is the same rocking chair where each baby had been rocked, nursed and had lullabyes sung to them. However, at times I needed solitary moments between God and me. How I cherished those times when as a new parent, I could take my concerns to the throne of prayer.  I knew that when I did not have the answers to my questions and concerns about being a new mother, I could go to the Designer and Creator of my little one for answers and wisdom. I have five children and each one is different in personality and demeanor. So as you can inagine, I  spent quite a bit of time in my rocking chair over the years. The power of prayer is available to any and all parents (and grandparents) who use it. And you don’t have to have a rocking chair!

God is faithful.  God is always there to guide parents. Our first child is a daughter. Her dad and I read every book on parenting that we could get our hands on in those early years. We also asked our seasoned parents and friends about child raising tips and strategies. Fortunately, she was an easy going and mild mannered firstborn. We adjusted easily to her personality and fell into the parenting role quite nicely. Then along came her sister a few years later. She added greatly to our growing family. I love her dearly as my daughter.  She, however has a story that is a blog for another time. Stay tuned …

Parents have power!

Yes, parents have power! Welcome to Shalom Family Ministries. I am a retired educator of 42 years and recently graduated from Colgate Rochester Crozer Divinity School in Rochester,  New York. I earned my Master of Divinity (M.Div) degree and guess what! I am now the pastor of two churches. I am writing this blog because I  want to help parents and grandparents in raising up children according to the way they should go and when they grow older they will not depart from it. Sound familiar? It is Proverbs 22:6. That is the signature verse that drives Shalom Family Ministries. Unfortunately, many children have to raise themselves for a number of reasons. Some parents find it difficult to parent and teach their children because no one taught them. Others feel so overwhelmed and inadequate that they neglect their parental responsibilities and hope that others will take over their job; like school or church.

That is where my ministry and blog come in. Shalom Family Ministries is an organization that is designed to help parents and offer resources that support parenting.These resources include articles, books, workshops and wisdom from over four decades as an educator and raising five children to adulthood. I strongly believe that parents are appointed, anointed and equipped by God to raise any child who is placed in their sphere of influence.  This includes biological children, step children, foster children, and children with special needs to name a few. In addition to parents  (and grandparents), it includes supporting other adults who have constant contact with children. Are you a teacher, a bus driver, scout leader, an aunt/ uncle, or a neighbor who is constantly involved with children? Than my ministry  and blogs are for you too. Welcome!